DECEPTION OVER ICE:
Confessions Of A Wise Old Teenager: Lessons From Bad Examples
"Hey Mom! Do you know where my baby pink sweater is?" Becca screamed.
"Hey, I can hear you from down the hall, even when you're not screaming," her mother replied, as she headed for her daughter's bedroom.
"What's the problem?" she asked, peering through the doorway.
"Tonight's so important to me Mom, and I can't find my pink sweater, have you seen it?"
Becca's mom twisted halfway around, quickly bent down and straightened back up, with the cherished sweater in-hand. "You mean this one?" she asked, with her favorite 'I thought so' grin.
"Thanks Mom," Becca replied, with a sigh of relief. "I can't wait for the eleventh grade dance tonight Mom. All my friends are gonna be there and this baby pink sweater will be just perfect over my dress!" she shouted.
The hours seemed to drag, but finally it was time to leave for the dance, which drew nearly every eleventh grader, and even a few seniors. Halfway through the evening, the dance floor was packed, as Becca and her date made their way to the refreshment table.
"Hey, this looks pretty good," her date Brendan declared; pointing at the punch. "Would you like a cup?" he asked politely.
"Sure," Becca replied, as she stretched out her hand. She slowly took a sip, in doubt of its flavor, when suddenly she detected the familiar scent of whiskey. "Yuck!" she muttered in disgust; slamming the cup down on the table. "This is spiked with some sort of whiskey," she informed her date in horror. My father and his brothers are heavy into drinking and.....well, I guess that's why it turns my stomach even just to smell this crap,” she whispered, as she pushed the plastic cup until it tipped over.
"Hey keep it down, we don't want to start an uproar," Brendan replied, with concern for Becca's reputation……..among other things.
After a few minutes, other students started quietly chatting about the punch, and a few of them were finding themselves becoming accidentally intoxicated.
Becca couldn’t help but notice some of her friends and others having trouble walking straight and giggling a lot, so she whispered, “Someone spiked the punch,” into the ear of one of the chaperones, as she and Brendan were walking out of the gymnasium.
After she returned home that night, Becca found it impossible to sleep, so she turned on the living room T.V. After watching several End Times videos, she started seeing something symbolic about the spiked punch.
"OH God, I wouldn’t even know about You if it weren’t for my wonderful mother…….And knowing You has made me wise beyond my years…..Oh Lord, I know that there are millions of kids like me that are going through the same thing I am, and most of them probably don’t even realize that they can turn to YOU……Oh Lord, I just had to get outta there when I realized kids were getting drunk! There wasn’t much I could do, but I’m glad I was able to whisper in Mrs. Dunlap’s ear…….I know that there's a few students in my school that just look for trouble, but most of them are not like that at all. I can't believe so many of them didn't even detect the alcohol in that punch! I'm not glad my father is an alcoholic, but at least I'm getting an education. I feel sorry for all those kids who had no clue. I guess that's how it is now in the world, so much deception over-taking the minds of so many. I pray they learn the truth of YOU Lord, before it's too late," she prayed, as she climbed into bed.
'I wonder how Brendan's going to react when I tell him what God has revealed to me,' she thought, for what seemed like hours, until she finally fell asleep.
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Common Personality Traits (of children with alcoholic parents)
Responsibility and Caretaking: Children of addicted people frequently assume adult responsibilities at a young age. They often take on the role of caretaker for their siblings or even their parents. This heightened sense of responsibility can lead to them becoming highly dependable and self-sufficient, but it can also cause them to neglect their own needs and well-being.
Hypervigilance: Growing up in an unpredictable environment makes these children highly sensitive to changes and potential threats. They often develop a heightened sense of awareness and can be very perceptive of others’ emotions and behaviors. While this can make them empathetic and attuned to others, it can also lead to anxiety and a constant state of alertness.
Perfectionism: In an effort to gain control in a chaotic household, children of alcoholic parents may strive for perfection in various aspects of their lives. They often set unrealistically high standards for themselves and can be overly critical of their own mistakes. This perfectionism can drive them to achieve great success, but it can also result in chronic stress and self-esteem issues.
Difficulty with Trust: Trust issues are common among children of addicted people. Repeated instances of broken promises and erratic behavior from their parents can make it hard for them to trust others. This mistrust can extend into their adult relationships, making it challenging to form close, healthy connections.
Low Self-Esteem: Living with addiction in the family often leads to feelings of inadequacy and low self-worth. These children may blame themselves for their parents’ behavior and believe they are unworthy of love and attention. This low self-esteem can impact their personal and professional lives, making it difficult to assert themselves and pursue their goals.
Fear of Abandonment: Children of alcoholic parents often experience feelings of abandonment, whether due to physical absence or emotional unavailability of their parents. This fear can lead to clinginess in relationships and a deep-seated anxiety about being left alone or rejected.
Difficulty Expressing Emotions: Growing up in an environment where emotions are often suppressed or ignored, these children may struggle to identify and express their own feelings. They might bottle up their emotions or have difficulty discussing them openly, leading to unresolved emotional issues.
This is so true Linz. They don't knos what they're doing.